In my last post I mentioned my drinking is under control this is a common factor in many women even men who have gone through domestic abuse/domestic violence and coercive control. Even once they are in refuge situations because it is a common coping mechanism to block things out. The only thing as i have learnt so many times before the issues are still there when you sober up, and you often feel worse than you did before. So why do we reach for the bottle or in some cases drugs ? it brings us the few hours calmness and numbs it for the few solitary hours we are under the influence for. Often going to the pub is a good place to meet people i know i used to did this myself many years ago but im now a solitary drinker. If you suffer depression take it from me ive suffered the for years alcohol and drugs only serves to make it worse. Alcohol and drug abuse is all to common but it does not have to be there are places to get help again these are things i am just...